lesson in life #2

Life is full of opposites.
Life is full of extremes.
All those who agree say aye and the others just read on.
There are people- tall and short, quiet and talkative,fair and dark, generous and selfish and so on.
lets consider the first two.
There are some who have to bend double to enter a door,who scrape their knees while sitting in an auto(three wheeler),who walk with a stoop to look like the rest of them and who are generally very shy., but alas can not manage to go unnoticed and generally end up having a lot of acquaintances.They are the tall people

On the other end are the short ones- those who can squirm through any tiny opening, but can not handle every day tasks easily- they have to stretch to their limit or block the aisle whilr riding in the bus (standing)
or have to stand on their toes or climb a chair to latch the door.Well their toes become very strong in the long run with all that tip toeing and stretching.well though they can easily go un noticed the shorties are generally garrulous bodies- that’s their way of getting noticed!!

Now we come to the other extremes.The quiet ones are shy ,reticent, reclusive simpletons or just too scared of opening thir mouth and giving themselves away.There are a lot of the 2nd type of quiets.They just feel they are too weird or too great or too bad … to open their mouths .By the way they are great litseners but have a tendency to draw out gossip and secrets and blurting it in front of the wrong person. so Beware!
The first type of quiets are sweet souls- generally good samaritans.They are great litseners but drive everyone crazy around them by not telling what’s going on in their mind.I realy do love the line that a great friend is one with whom you sit for hours saying nothing and yet feel u’ve just had the best conversation in ur life.But I think one of the quiets must have written it.quiets just assume that their true mates can understand whatever is in their head.sorry we have yet to become human cat scanners.
The verbose , talk nineteen to the dozen as if they are in love with their voices.Mind you they generally have squeaky, high pitched or hoarse voices.But they can be cool pals.They are natural clowns and born entertainers and can enliven anyone’s day.They talk about themselves a lot and may appear self obsessed but I think they just try to make as much possible of the time they have with anyone.They are terrrible listeners and cannot stomach harshness and secrets about themselves, (others just do not tell them from the fear that the’ll blabber)Alas quite a few blabbermouths I know have stomached dozens of friendly secrets for years.There are gossiper and talkers , here I was talking about the latter, mind u.

Ok coming to an end of this piece I shall just say life is full of opposite and likes.The Proverbs :Opposites attract and Birds of a feather flock together tend to contradict each othar, but that’s what life is all about.SO extremeties are responsible for the balance and harmony in the world.Like gravity and anti-gravity hold the world together so do different people hold a life together.So do not restrict urself to the likes’ try the oppsites too, u may like it!!

Time for a lesson on life

In life you tend to be oblivious to certain things that are staring into your face all the time.Accepting status quo is a human tendency but everyone's interpretation of the status quo varies.What is apparent to me may not be even slighthly evident to someone else.Quite often when we disassociate ourselves from a place or situation then new things come to light, things become clearer or attain a new dimension.For example, you have a favourite book beacuse everytime you read it you discover something new, a word you skipped,an assumption that you made falsified, a new interpretation, a new meaning.There are some who have a favourite read beacuse they read it all the time - it becomes their status quo, but actually the very defining feature of a favourite read is the scope to disciver something in it evertime it is read.

Books are merely an example even in life one hates change of any kind that is why bringing about change requires great upheavels-this very fact destroys the myth that humans like sticking to a status quo.The treuth is, humans seek comfort in the present, when it becomes uncomfortable there come about revolutions in a burst of energy and zeal to bring about a change and make life better.It's all about self worth and self comfort.

So one can have two perspectives, that essentially people prefer status quo because a)the status quo is multidimensional and subjective and b) that it is so because of the innate desire of humans to seek comfort.

Small incidents in life teach you so much.If the relative importance of something changes for you changes with time , do not get worried , it's for the best because the decisions taken after dis association are the best.However importance of people cannot change, when thrown together even friends of yesteryears become and remain as close and carefree as before, that is the beauty of relationships, and especially friendship.It is a bond which is forged to last forever.

PS:Sorry for the preaching tone and variopus digressions!(As if i care, jst being nice)

going away

Life's takes a turn and one begins to feel lonely all of a sudden.The whole gang of people that herd around you vanish in a blink and you are all alone.That one person who you fell back on for everything or wanted to(this is a worse case actually) fall back on somewhen even that person leaves your side or you miss the chance to have her/him on your side.It's not fate or chance.let's call it circumstance.They change, you cahange,people drift apart and come together.Nothing can be planned but all is not fate.It is you , what u r that is the cause and effect of what happens in your life.So if peple turn their back on u , it's u who r responsible for it- either somethings wrong with u or generally u've just chosen the wrong peple to b around u.It's painful both ways.So be it.None can cahange it.It smarts for a while to die down and smart again.Best of luck till the next bout of smarting to all those who are parting ways.